This is why you lack Confidence
Recently on Twitter, many people have been giving steps to build confidence.
As usual, I started to think what can be the reason behind this lack of confidence,
And here’s what I found.
1) Excessive Social Media
If you are wondering how is that possible,
The effect of social media can be like porn or even worse.
You see, your social media, to be precise your phone, works at your own will.
You get habitual to make things work according to you.
In real life, that’s not how it works.
When you realize that people won’t necessarily work at your will,
Your first reaction is anger.
When the anger settles, Insecurities settle in.
You get into a perpetual state where you fear talking because there are high chances things won’t work according to you.
You have to realize that uncertainty is the only inevitable,
Accept it and do what you want to.
2) Pleasing Others
You never thought this could be a reason, did you?
What really happens is you start behaving unnaturally.
Once you do that, you are no more in control
If you are not projecting your true self, your body won’t give you confidence.
You’ll end up shitting your pants, that’s it.
This is something I have experienced for myself,
Every time I try being someone else, I lose my confidence.
And listen carefully when I say this-
Be fucking yourself.
This will solve half of your problems.
3) External Stimulus
There are surely tons of ways people try to lower your confidence,
And I can’t discuss all,
So I’ll give you all a pattern in which all of this works.
It all starts by showing you something you could be.
Then, you are shown how others are the reason for you not achieving it.
Finally, you start feeling as to how easily people control you.
Then, boom! Vanish. Your confidence is gone
4) Comparing Yourself to Others
I am telling you, this Is the worst thing you can do to yourself.
The good part is, someone else made you do this.
It’s good because now you can change it.
You see, right from your school days, you have always been told to be better than others.
And when you fail to do so, guess what?
Yes you lose confidence
Even if you succeed, guess what?
You are still afraid of the competition.
For once and for all,
Stop comparing yourself.
You got this precious life to be your best version.
Not to prove a point to someone else.
Now,
I won’t give you any precise steps to rebuild your confidence.
Once you deprogram your mind, you can start recovering on your own.
Also, there are plenty of resources on the web.
My job was to bring you back to your start, rest I leave upon you.
Before I leave,
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Where you can find me-
Twitter- @RealisticBrah
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Until Next Time